Monday, July 6, 2015

Crochet for Life - In Memory of a Stranger

This is going to be a heavy post, so feel free to come back later. 

I opened an email earlier from one of my favorite bloggers, but what I read broke my heart. A fellow blogger, Marinke "Wink" Slump committed suicide last Friday. Dedri Uys wrote, "Marinke's struggle with depression, and the healing she found through crochet, strikes a cord with me.  There, but for the Grace of God...  I do not have words to formulate exactly what I am feeling, or why...."

I had seen her work, but I had never read Marinke's blog, A Creative Being. I took some time to check it out. Her colorful creations spoke to me, and mandalas appear to be one of her favorite things to make. Below are two of them:

The 12 Round Crochet Mandala
I Love Holland Mandala
Wink's last post was entitled, "Looking for the Light" written on June 18th. It reads:

Hi everyone!
Some of you know that this year has been tough for me. As a result, I am now being treated for a severe depression.
I am in a very dark place right now, and I am looking for the light at the end of a very long and dark tunnel.
So I’m taking a break. Taking a moment, pressing pause on my life; to figure out which path to take, and in what direction.
I will continue to blog, albeit sporadically, because I am still creating things. Crochet used to be what keeps me sane, and I’m trying really hard to find peace in crafting again. As long as I’m crafting, I’m alive, and as long as I’m alive, I might be able to find my way out of the darkness.
Thanks for sticking with me; I hope to be back in full force soon.


I can relate to her all too well, unfortunately. At the same time as her post, committing suicide crossed my mind for the first time, also because of depression. My life has been one set of trying circumstances after another, and I am sure many can relate. 

I am so glad I hung in there, reminding myself that "suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem." Just three days later, my circumstances changed greatly! 

My heart aches for Wink's family, and for Wink, too, that she felt that was her only way out. 

Crochet has taken on a new meaning for me in just the last few hours. I will be adding my contribution to this project: "Design Wars have asked that people celebrate Marinke's life by sharing photos of their Marinke mandalas with the hashtag #mandalasforwink." 

If you would like to participate, follow the links I have placed throughout this post to get to her blog. There are a couple of free patterns there, but there are also links to her shops to purchase patterns.

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